A great relationship isn't when a perfect couple comes together, but when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences Unknown
Couples and relationship counselling
Human beings are quite naturally sociable creatures who generally seek the company of others, want meaningful friendships, desire positive interactions and fulfilling intimate attachments. At the heart of our society, however, is difference. Dealing with difference in relationships can be challenging and sometimes perplexing as we find ourselves disturbed by conflicting emotions and thoughts.
Right relationships is a skill which can be learnt through relationship counselling, offering routes to improve, deepen and enrich all our relationships; the quality of our life and the lives of those around us.
Relationship counselling will focus on resolving relationship issues, conflicts and misunderstandings to support the health and well-being of those involved.
Whether difficulties and concerns are affecting your intimate interactions or the connections that occur in a workplace environment, focusing on right relations with a counsellor will offer routes to personal freedom and healthier well-being.
Relationships require attention, consideration and respect. Unless they are maintained, nourished, valued and tended they become susceptible to injury, reduced function and possible destruction.
Over time, an intimate relationship may suffer from some attention deficit. All sorts of things can happen in our day to day lives that stop us from connecting. Unhealthy patterns may develop, for a variety of reasons, where couples stop listening to each other and communication starts to collapse.
As a couples therapist, my role is to work with you to facilitate change and resolution. To help you discover how to communicate more effectively, to encourage reflection and deliberation so that you can recognise your choices and to support you whilst you arrive at your own conclusions.
You will have the opportunity to explore, in a safe non-judgemental supportive environment, what is happening in your relationship. We will also assess your current relational skill set and extend your expertise to deepen your communication routes, resolve difficulties and transform patterns of behaviour that keep you trapped in an unhappy and unhealthy method of relating. As a couple, you will learn new techniques and strategies to enable a more fulfilling and distinctive relationship.
How can couples and relationship counselling be helpful?
I aim to help you with the following:
- Understand and recognise how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship
- Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present
- Communicate in a more constructive way
- Learn why arguments escalate
- Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible
As your counselling sessions progress, you and your partner may discover a way of overcoming your differences or problems, and you may reconnect. Sometimes the counselling facilitation may help you decide that it is time to part ways and dissolve your relationship. Whatever the conclusion, counselling offers you an opportunity to grow and to make decisions about what the future can hold for both of you.
Common relationship problems explored
There are many different concerns that may bring you to couples counselling, ranging from a lack of communication through to a betrayal or an affair. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:
|Lack of trust||Work-related stress||Family conflicts|
|Financial issues||Poor communication||Different sexual needs or other sexual issues|
|Jealousy||Abusive behaviour||Different goals and values|
|Life changes||Different parenting styles||Controlling behaviour|
The above list is not complete and every situation is unique. Whatever the concern is, however, speaking to a professional is often the first helpful step forward.
When is the right time to seek help?
Every relationship is different and so when you choose to seek help will depend on the nature of the issue you are facing. If you are concerned about your relationship (for whatever reason) and feel you are unable to reach a conclusion alone, it is likely that you will benefit from couples counselling.
Please contact me for more information or to enquire about an appointment.